Frequently Asked Questions

If you do not change direction,

you may end up where you are heading.

- Lao-tzu

What does COEXISTUS mean?  

The word coexist can be defined as "living in peace with each other".  

The prefix co- evokes a sense of connection, a balance of power, shared responsibility, and working together collaboratively for mutual benefit.

The root word exist is used as an attempt to highlight the following:

Balancing power and responsibilities, recognizing and eliminating abusive patterns, and improving individual and overall functioning are challenging tasks for any system and most require help in doing so.  The name of this program is actually a request for help: COEXISTUS.  

What does "Interpersonal Systems Functioning" mean?

We are all part of multiple systems of people.  Examples of interpersonal systems include:

These systems contain different individuals who play their own unique roles in that system. 

Dysfunction negatively impacts every member of the system.  Examples of dysfunction include:

A high functioning system is one where each member is equally regarded and valued for their diverse perspectives and unique contributions. Members work with each other not against each other to solve problems and resolve conflicts in a way that is mutually beneficial and builds trust.  It is not even considered an option to harm each other or to meet one's needs at another's expense.  In the case where one member inadvertently harms another, it is acknowledged and members work to repair the situation and prevent future harm.  Members of high functioning systems face hardships together, strengthening their bonds and fostering resilience. They practice self care and prioritize each other's well-being promoting a nurturing environment that fosters optimal development for everyone in the system.

How much do services typically cost?

Service Menu and Associated Fees

Jodi Harvey, MA, LPC Registered Associate #R5649

NEW CLIENT ONBOARDING PROCESS Onboarding essentially means getting started with services.

After a Prospective Client initiates contact with Coexistus, I return the call for a brief introduction and overview of our services and to see if they would like to meet via Zoom for a free private 20 minute video session scheduled at their convenience using the calendarhero app.

All Prospective Clients are offered a Free Individual 20 Minute Video Session. The purpose of this session is to provide prospective clients the opportunity to ask any questions they may have about services in order to make a more informed decision about whether or not Coexistus LLC might be helpful at this time.

If the Prospective Client wants to work with us, they let me know if there are any other people whom they would like to involve in services if at all possible. With their permission, I reach out to others and invite them to schedule a Free Individual 20 Minute Video Session. If they do not want to engage in services, I let the Prospective Client who initiated contact with us know and we discuss potential alternative courses of action. If they do want to participate, we determine if they are also going to become a client or if they are going to serve in more of a supportive role. We discuss which services may be most appropriate at this time.

I send out a Client Paperwork Packet to everyone who would like to engage in services with Coexistus LLC. The Client Paperwork Packet includes paperwork like an Intake Questionnaire, Service Plan and a Service Agreement / Consent to Participate in Services. The Service Plan / Good Faith Estimate is negotiated until the client and the provider are in full agreement to a preliminary course of action. The Service Plan is meant to evolve to meet the changing needs of clients, to be modified by mutual consent, confirmed in writing and formally revisited, reviewed and updated at least every 90 days.

Counseling Services

Individual Counseling, Couples Counseling, and Family Counseling

Medicaid/OHP PacificSource Community Solutions is the only In-Network Health Insurance that I’m a provider for at this time. A Superbill (receipt for counseling services) can be provided for clients to submit a claim to their own insurance company to attempt to be reimbursed for out-of-network, non-participating provider benefits (if any are available in the specific member's health plan). Note that in order for insurance to be billed or a Superbill to be generated a formal mental health diagnosis has to occur. If a client does not want a formal diagnosis, then billing insurance and generating a Superbill will not occur during their treatment unless they elect to change their Service Plan.

CPT Codes are the codes that insurance companies require for insurance claims / Superbills. They are listed below next to services that are sometimes covered by insurance companies.

Without insurance, the relationship/system is the “client”.

Without insurance, the relationship/system is the “client”.

Coaching Services

Facilitation Services

Mediation Services

Co-Parent Coordination Services

The Protector Program: Ask me about this program!


A client receiving services in one area may also receive some concurrent coaching services and educational classes for free by virtue of being an active client in good standing (as detailed in the Client's Service Plan).

Educational Classes that are offered in conjunction with other services (listed in the client's Service Plan) are included in the price of counseling or coaching sessions.  Stand alone educational classes are offered at different rates for each class and posted on the course website or included in the client’s Service Plan.

Individuals are responsible for the fees for individual sessions. Group members are responsible for their own group fees.  For all sessions except group sessions, when more than one person is present at a session, the fee is split equally among participants, unless determined otherwise by mutual consent confirmed in writing.

Multiple Session Packages may be available for clients who wish to pay ahead for services and receive a discount for doing so. Please ask if this option is currently available.

Sliding Fee Scale may be available for the service you’re receiving. Please ask about the availability of this option and it may be incorporated into your service plan.

Note that it is standard practice for the traditional “Therapeutic Hour” or the “Service Hour” to consist of 50 minutes of client contact followed by 10 minutes of administration for that case.

There is a $25 fee for the following situations:

Current clients can self-schedule additional support at any time with an out-of-pocket prepaid brief check-in session for $25/15 minute session

Co-Working sessions are free for all current clients.

I bill $30/15 minutes for administrative tasks that you may require such as report writing for court, attendance at meetings, responding to extensive emails, or engaging in extensive phone consultations which you have requested or initiated that go beyond the scope of what was included in your Service Plan.  I will provide notice when a request is considered above and beyond scope of services outlined in the Service Plan so there are no surprises regarding billing for such services.

If you are involved in a court case and you would like these services to satisfy court requirements, you must notify me ahead of time so we can confirm that our services will be acceptable for satisfying requirements of referring party such as probation or parole (if applicable).

If you anticipate becoming involved in a court case, I recommend that we discuss this fully before you choose to involve me in any way as I practice largely as a neutral and, therefore, I may not be helpful to you (as I will most likely offer a very objective and critical perspective of both parties deficiencies without taking the position of advocating for one party over the other). I offer these services to help increase the safety, security and stability that each member of a system experiences, not to be weaponized by one party against the other. If a party attempts to file any paperwork to compel me to testify on their behalf, I will seek legal counsel and most likely appeal to squash the subpoena. If you insist that your case requires my participation, you will be expected to pay at least 8 hours for my professional time required to review your case, prepare for testifying, and the actual time spent in transit to and from and participating in all court activities and the preparation of court documents. You will also pay for all required travel, meals, accommodation and materials related to my participating in court. My fee for preparing for and participating in court cases is $500/hour with a $5,000 retainer collected up front from the party who has initiated this course of action. In addition, I will no longer serve as a resource to or work with that party in any of my services moving forward.

Coexistus LLC reserves the right to update or modify this service/fee structure as needed.  Fees quoted in an active Service Plan cannot be modified by the program prior to the 90 day review except by mutual consent (client and provider), confirmed in writing.

Do you take insurance?

Health insurance may be utilized for mental health related services (counseling) only.  For counseling services, I am a medicaid approved provider.  For all other insurance companies, I  may be considered an Out of Network provider if you have this type of benefit from your health insurance provider.  I am also able to provide you with a Super Bill that you may submit to your insurance company to see if they will cover the service provided.  Contact me to discuss your specific situation.  

What is your privacy policy?  

Coexistus LLC is committed to maintaining the accuracy, confidentiality, and security of your personally identifiable information ("Personal Information").  As part of this commitment, our privacy policy governs our actions as they relate to the collection, use and disclosure of Personal Information.  Our privacy policy is based upon the values set by United States Privacy laws and cases that have set the standards for business use of Personal Information.  

Coexistus LLC is responsible for maintaining and protecting the Personal Information under our control and have set up our business management systems in compliance with this privacy policy.  Coexistus LLC collects, uses and discloses Personal Information to provide you with the products or services you have requested and to offer you additional products or services that we determine may be helpful to you.  

Knowledge and consent are required for the collection, use or disclosure of Personal Information except where required or permitted by law.  The purposes for which we collect Personal Information will be identified before or at the time we collect the information.  In certain circumstances, the purposes for which information is collected may be clear and consent may be implied, such as where your name, address and payment information is provided as part of a payment process.  The Personal Information collected will be limited to those details necessary for the purposes identified by us and disclosed to you.  With your consent, we may collect Personal Information from you in person, over the telephone, or by corresponding with you via mail, facsimile, or the Internet.  

Personal Information may only be used or disclosed for the purpose for which it was collected unless you have otherwise consented or when it is required or permitted by law.  Personal Information will only be retained for the period of time required to fulfill the purpose for which it was collected or as may be required by law.  Personal information will be maintained as necessary to fulfill the purposes for which it is is to be used, and therefore, Coexistus LLC may request your assistance with ensuring that your Personal Information is accurate, complete and updated as needed.  

Personal Information will be protected by security safeguards that are appropriate to the sensitivity level of the information.  We take all reasonable precautions to protect your Personal Information from any loss or unauthorized use, access or disclosure.  Coexistus will never not sell your information to other companies.  

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Other Websites:  Our website may contain links to other third party sites that are not governed by this privacy policy.  Although we endeavor to only link to sites with high privacy standards, our privacy policy will no longer apply once you leave our website.  Additionally we are not responsible for the privacy practices employed by third party websites.  Therefore, we suggest that you examine the privacy statements of those sites to learn how your information may be collected, used, shared and disclosed.  

Providing your Personal Information is always your choice.  However, your decision not to provide certain information may limit our ability to provide you with our products or services.  If you have any questions or concerns regarding our privacy policy, please direct them to   

Which of your services is best for me?

Client current needs and concerns will determine a unique course of action for each client.  We use the Initial Client Phone Call and the Private Phone Consultation to create a Service Proposal which outlines a course of action specifying which services could be conducted, who would be involved, a projected timeline, and estimated expenses.  We use the Service Proposal and the foundation for negotiating with clients on what they consider to be the best course of action.  The Service Proposal becomes a Service Plan once it is approved by everyone who is participating.  The Service Plan is meant to be a living document that will evolve through collaboration and mutual consent and can be terminated at any time for any reason.  

Many services can be combined, for example, a client may complete an educational class concurrently (at the same time) as they participate in counseling.  Services may also occur consecutively (one after the other) as when a client participates in a parenting plan facilitation which is followed by a formal mediation.  There are some services that we may determine are best conducted by another provider and often times, a client is already receiving individual counseling with another provider so they do not need to obtain that service here.  Some services will not be combined.  The Service Plan outlines the service or services that will be provided.  

What is meant by "systems focus"?  

Since all of us are part of one or more interpersonal systems (i.e. current family, family of origin, extended family, workmates, roommates, religious community, social groups, etc.) our services will involve one or more other people from those systems as appropriate to the extent it is safe/possible to do so.  When a challenge or transition impacts more than one person, it is often more helpful and effective to work with others who are involved at some level, rather than to just work with one person.  

Involving other members of your family system is a given for the services of Facilitation, Mediation and Parent Coordination in order for those services to occur.  For Counseling, Education, and Coaching, we work with the party who initiated services to determine which other people will be invited to be part of this process--who will be involved, how and when they will be involved, and to what extent.  

Participation in our services is completely voluntary.  Clients engage in activities at their own level of comfort and can withdraw their consent to participate in a specific service or end their status as a client of COEXISTUS at any time for any reason by notifying the program in writing. 

What if there is a restraining order?

The terms of any current no contact order take priority over all agreements and are at the foundation of all services provided.  If you are a party listed on a current no contact order, you will be expected to share that document with the program prior to participating in any services with others.    

When there has been a history of abuse in the family system, we utilize the most conservative mode of communication, because historical abuse tends to have a lasting impact on others and continues to have an ongoing influence on relationship dynamics.  An example would be if a co-parent was requesting a mediation with the other co-parent and one wanted the meeting to be held in person while the other did not want to see or speak with the other directly, we would host the more conservative format--not forcing one party to more contact than they are comfortable with.  

I will not allow clients to abuse myself or others.  I will not provide an avenue for further abuse to occur between clients.  I will not subject myself to harm by being exposed to abusive dynamics.

What if a client is abusive during a session?

I will not allow clients to abuse myself or others.  I will not provide an avenue for further abuse to occur between clients.  I will not subject myself to harm by being exposed to abusive dynamics.

Abuse behaviors can be a very subtle and unique to a specific relationship, and therefore, they might not be immediately evident to others.  We need to increase awareness of abusive dynamics in all their forms no matter how "minor" or "justified" they may seem to be for one or both parties.  Calling attention to them is essential to interrupting abusive patterns and learning to relate differently with others.  I will do my best to identify and interrupt abusive dynamics, but I need you to play an active role and let me know when slights and microaggressions that are unique or common to your relationship occur

If a participant chooses to engage in abusive behavior during a service, it is at my discretion whether or not to utilize an intervention intended to establish and reinforce safety or to end the session.  I reserve the right to cancel or end services for a client who is unreceptive to feedback and continues to utilize abusive ways of interacting with others. 

 Frequently Asked Questions 

about Counseling Services

Who typically participates in Counseling Services?

People often choose to go to counseling to improve their mental health and their overall level of functioning, to improve the quality of their relationship with someone whom they care about, or to gain assistance with a current life transition or significant challenge.  

Parents often choose to participate in counseling for the following reasons.  

Co-Parents often choose to participate in counseling for the following reasons.  

Protectors often choose to participate in counseling for the following reasons.


 Frequently Asked Questions

about Coaching Services

Who typically participates in Coaching Services?

Coaching services are available for individuals, couples, roommates, parents, co-parents, and families who want ongoing support with a life transition, current challenge or conflict, communication, accountability, wellness, parenting, co-parenting, abuse prevention, family system dynamics, increasing stability, achieving a specific goal, setting up a new co-parenting arrangement, implementing a parenting plan, carrying out a new agreement or new course of action, etc. 

Clients who choose to participate in coaching include people who want help implementing new learning or achieving a specific goal.  Others may be going through a significant life transition and want assistance with setting up a new normal.  Being an accountability buddy is often one of the most appreciated aspects of coaching.   

An example might be... a mother who has recently gone through a divorce may need some assistance with revitalizing a career that has been on hold for the past 10 years, building a self care routine, and setting up her own household all while continuing to focus on raising the kids and her daily life. 

Coaching is for basically anyone who could use a neutral person to talk through options and gain a fresh perspective while receiving support and accountability in moving towards their goals.  

 Frequently Asked Questions

about Educational Services

Who typically participates in Educational Services?

Many people participate in these classes at the urging of someone else.  Unfortunately, it is rare for someone to have the insight and awareness to recognize that they could benefit from taking one or more of these classes.  We call those insightful individuals "self-referred" clients--no one told them they had to participate in a class, they decided to do so for themselves.  Most clients could be called "mandated" clients--someone... their partner, their teen, their parent, a judge, or a probation officer said that they had to take a class.

The reality is that all of us could use any of these classes, especially the Abuse Intervention/Prevention class.  Everyone around us, including our kids want us to take that class!  

Participants who have completed our classes say that they wish they had taken a class like that earlier.  Maybe then they'd still be married, still have that job... essentially that they learned something they realized could have helped them avoid some hardship.  Many have said that they had the opportunity to learn this information in high school, that it would be incorporated into the traditional school system so that everyone could learn it proactively.   

 Frequently Asked Questions

about Facilitation Services

Who typically participates in Facilitation Services?

Facilitation assists clients with accomplishing a specific task.  Facilitation is a non-confidential service.  Most facilitation services are for participants who are not currently involved in court proceedings.  

Most clients ask for a facilitation when they want someone else to take the lead in a crucial discussion, to keep things on task when trying to accomplish something, and to provide an element of accountability when tasks need to be completed.  Some people just feel more comfortable having a neutral third party present for these important conversations.  Sometimes people unfortunately want to hire someone who will take their side, promote their proposals, or force other people to what they want--this is not facilitation.  Facilitators do not take sides on issues, make decisions for participants, advocate on behalf of one of the issues or provide legal advice.

Co-parents may choose to do facilitation to create or modify their parenting plans because they can more thoroughly explore the issues involved, they can involve other people in the development of or final review of their agreements, and they will have a full parenting plan or most of a parenting plan at the conclusion of the process.  In mediation, parents will only receive a list of agreements or if parents are in full agreement, only then will parents receive a parenting plan.   

Co-parents typically utilize a facilitated brief focused assessment to work out any aspect of their co-parenting arrangement that remains unsettled (i.e. parenting time schedule, legal custody, etc.).  Parents typically utilize this type of facilitation to address specific problems in the family system like addictions, role imbalances, options for college, etc.  Co-parents who want to modify their parenting plan may choose to do a facilitated brief focused assessment in order to do a more thorough evaluation of the situation in the hope of coming to agreement on the matter on their own.  

Co-parents who have not started creating a parenting plan may want to do the facilitated early neutral parenting arrangement evaluation so that they can have a neutral professional create a comprehensive parenting plan to use as a start for negotiations.  It's like a mini custody or parenting plan evaluation conducted ahead of time by the parents for the parents.  Co-parents who already have a parenting plan but have yet to submit it to the court may want to do the early neutral parenting arrangement evaluation prior to formalizing it with the court so it can be reviewed by a neutral professional who will assist parents in doing a thorough examination of each section, gather information to help them make more informed decisions, and ultimately create a more useful and comprehensive parenting plan.  

Restorative circles are helpful for bringing transparency, accountability, and healing to a family system so they can learn from what has happened, make sense of it, assimilate it into a collective narrative that preserves the integrity of everyone involved, and move forward in a more healthy, constructive way.  

 Frequently Asked Questions

about Mediation Services

Who typically participates in Mediation?

Mediation helps clients work out a specific conflict.

Basic Mediations are best for parties who have done some work ahead of time and are relatively knowledgeable of the issues involved, and either have a neutral to good working relationship with the other party or parties are both committed to a parallel relationship where there are few if any communications or interactions between the parties and those contacts that do occur are highly structured and limited either by mutual consent or by a formalized order from the court, law enforcement or other authority.    

A Transformative Mediation is typically utilized by people who have ongoing connections with each other and they recognize the value in neutralizing negative regard for each other so they can better work together both now and in the future.  

A Parenting Plan Mediation is utilized by separating/divorcing parents who would like to come to some agreements to improve the situation and prevent future problems.  It is also utilized by parents who are not separated or divorced but getting along and living in the same household and they want to get their shared vision, values, and objectives for their child/ren in writing in hope of preventing hardship for either parent down the road.  

Often a parent files a for a modification but they haven't really had a discussion with the other parent about their concerns and proposed changes.  Many times a parent wants a specific change in the parenting plan and they are so set on that course of action that they want the other parent to be forced to comply by someone in an authority position.  It is not assumed that the parenting plan will be modified or that it is a given that one parent's suggestion is any better than other options.  A mediator again is a neutral third party who will not align with one parent against the other parent and a mediator does not have any authority to force anybody to do anything.  A mediation for potentially modifying a parenting plan helps parents to reframe their positions as proposals allowing parents to benefit from their shared wisdom and experiences for their child's best interests.  

Many times roommates/cohabitants/flatmates enter their new living situation very optimistically thinking everything is going to work out great and nothing bad will happen.  But without concrete agreements, in writing, so many things can go wrong with no recourse.  This service uses mediation as an intervention attempting to improve their experience living together, and prevent future problems that almost inevitably arise when people share living space.  

Parents of teenagers or young adults who still live together and are frustrated with how it is going often choose to participate in mediation in effort to work together to improve the situation and prevent future problems.  

Is mediation an ongoing service?

Mediation occurs when both parties acknowledge there is a conflict that they need assistance with resolving, it is not an ongoing service.  

What meeting format will be utilized?

The format of the mediation depends upon the level of hostility between parties.  Parties that demonstrate a low level of hostility for each other typically participate in meetings where they have direct contact with each other.  Parties that demonstrate a great deal of hostility towards each other typically participate in a shuttle style mediation where they do not have direct contact with each other.  If there is a current restraining order that prohibits direct contact but allows parents to participate in court ordered services, then parties participate in a shuttle style mediation (where the mediator works with parents individually during the same session).  If there has been a history of abuse in the relationship, mediation will most likely occur via shuttle style.  We always go with the more conservative format--we never force parties to engage in more contact than they are comfortable with.  Sometimes the format changes throughout a mediation as both parties gain comfort with each other and increased confidence in their ability to work things out.  

My co-parent and I do not have a parenting plan yet, should we schedule a mediation?  

If parents are just starting the process of creating a parenting plan, they are encouraged to participate in Parenting Plan Facilitation first and then to mediate on disputed items if necessary.  

 Frequently Asked Questions

about Parent Coordination Services

Who typically participates in Parent Coordination?

Parents may benefit from participating in Parent Coordination services if they are experiencing any of the following issues:

How can I start working with COEXISTUS?

Potential clients fill out the Service Inquiry Form that is located on the Contact COEXISTUS page on this website.  This form tells me why you're looking for services at this time.  If it looks like you're a good candidate for these services, I will contact you to schedule a free, individual, 20 minute Initial Video Session.  If it looks like these services are not a good fit for your needs at this time or if I am no longer accepting new clients, I will email you to let you know.  

During your free, individual, 20 minute Initial Video Session, you'll learn more about our services and have the opportunity to ask me any questions you might have. During this session, if you'd like to work with me, you would let me know who, if anyone, you'd like to have join you if at all possible in your services with us.  With your consent, I would then reach out to them offering them a free, individual, video session. This session is a requirement for anyone interested in being involved in any of these services.   

After the Initial Video Session(s), I send out the Client Paperwork Packet.  This paperwork packet provides prospective clients with a brief overview of services and gives the prospective client the opportunity to provide more information to the program about their situation and their goals.  If a prospective client has any question about anything related to the Client Paperwork Packet or their potential participation in any services with Coexistus LLC, they should contact the program and speak directly with a program representative prior to signing the paperwork.  If a prospective client would like to become a client, they sign the Consent to Participate and submit all completed Client Paperwork to the program.   

Once I receive the completed Client Paperwork, I schedule a one hour New Client Session which is a private individual consultation via video with each party so that we can go over the Client Paperwork Packet and talk about how we might work to improve the situation.  

After the New Client Session(s), a Service Proposal is generated outlining recommendations for how to proceed along with an estimated cost for services.  Parties review the Service Proposal and decide which services, if any, they agree to participate in.  Once we settle on an acceptable course of action, a signed Service Proposal becomes the Service Plan.  

The Service Plan outlines the approved course of action.  It is meant to be a working document that may evolve through collaboration and mutual consent, confirmed in writing.  

The Service Plan is a component of the Service Agreement which is the contract that establishes the formalized relationship between the client and the service provider.  A client's participation in any services with COEXISTUS LLC may be discontinued at any time for any reason with written notice by either the client or the service provider.  

If you have additional questions, please click on the Contact COEXISTUS button below.

Would you like to schedule an individual, 

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Great!  Click the "Contact COEXISTUS" button below.  It will take you to the Contact COEXISTUS page on this website and fill out the Service Inquiry form.  This tells me why you're seeking services at this time and when you're available for an individual, free 20 minute initial phone or video consultation.  

It is easier to build strong children than

to repair broken men."

- Frederick Douglass